Help me I'm in a tough situation, is there a technical solution?

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Apple have previously disapproved my previous version of this issue because I was not clear about my questions, so I have chosen to rephrase them. Despite this "misunderstanding" I was actually asking for technical help and instead got deleted. Please actually read this instead of just reporting it! I do actually have an issue here and I do want help and I feel that I was right to post it here. I don't personally agree that I didn't meet the criteria. But I am trying believe it or not! If you don't want to answer this topic, just move on. Let someone else help me, instead of reporting it, because it's all too hard or seems all too obvious to you what the answers are or you feel it doesn't meet criteria. Some of us don't have all the answers, not even all the obvious ones. My original version was not written in haste or anger, nor did I blame Apple, I also spent time to edit it to structure the situation clearly. I explained my background situation clearly to show my issue was serious and to show how it all fits together. Otherwise the questions just seem lame and pointless. After all I doubt many will be in this same situation which leaves me no where.
Question 1. I already asked this, Can I removed the Apple default apps? I thought I might not be seeing how since there are many hidden features on the iPhone.
Answer 1. Apparently not.
Question 2. Can I control the way apps access the data network? I can't find a way to prevent apps from using it or switching to it when my WI-FI drops momentarily.
Question 3. Is it possible for the mobile provider to turn my data network off while leaving the cellular network active?
Question 4. I'm trapped in a tough spot, is there something "technical" I can do, that I haven't mentioned bellow? There must be something to elevate the situation.
For your information only I have posted the original account I made unedited bellow. I did initial two phrases to G.B. to reduce filtering on Apples forum. I add this here because it explains my situation clearly (or so it seems to me). Please don't take offence that I have added it. Choose to not read it if you will, but don't judge me for adding it. But by reading it I think my questions might look less random or silly:
* Start Background Information *
I have wound up getting an iPhone contract that has me living in a data roaming area for my mobile provider. This is partly due to insufficient knowledge, lack of education in the matter and partly due to the nature of all services in the remote Australian town I live in. The reason I went with this provider in the first place was due to the limited services I could access that had signal in my home and finance. Incidentally all three of them sell iPhones. The first one's cheapest deal is $100 a month for the contract with a lousy deal. The second has intermittent signal in our home, I may have gone with one of their plans if not for the poor signal. The third, which I went with, a fairly good deal for the cash and the cellular coverage perfect all over the property. I have since found out their roaming data network, which I live in is contracted to the first option which own the monopoly and hence the ridiculous mb charges. Occasionally it connects to the second option, but I get the feeling they are also subcontracting off the first! Anyway...
So I live in a roaming data area, It's not international roaming so the phone won't protect me from the excessive mb charges. I started out only using general apps when in WI-FI but found intermittent drop outs which I never noticed happen was causing excessive charges. I have since noticed the signal bars for the WI-FI not change but a spinner indicator ,all very easy to miss. I contacted the network and they refuse to turn off my data network; despite a tech telling me it can be done. So until Apple come to the rescue and put in a feature like the no roaming feature that works for all mobile data connections, that are not the ones belonging to the service provider, I'm stuck turning the phone to aeroplane mode before using any app I don't completely trust. I can see Apples difficulty here, but I would settle for turning all data network off, just leaving the cellular network and WI-FI active. As things are I have to turn phone over to aeroplane mode, then turn WI-FI on then use app, then remember to turn the phone back on when finished. Sometimes I forget for a couple of hours. But I trust some apps or sometimes forget to turn the mobile off. Contacts app got me the yesterday; I was at the post office where I looked up an address and accidentally tapped the address on the card and the maps app loaded up. This is followed by mad stumble to close it before it uses data. So easy to do, also happened using the iPod in the car a few days back. While selecting a pod cast I accidentally clicked "Get more episodes…" and safari loaded, Panic!!! Also what makes it worse, is that I can't remove or hide some apps provided by Apple, like Maps, for example, to reduce the risk of accidental tap. Feel very vulnerable! There is also a risk of forgetting to switch the phone to aeroplane mode when I let a friend checkout the phone or just play one of my games.
So Apple, what are my options? Shelve the phone by leaving phone permanently off turning it into an iPod touch and keep paying through the nose for 2 years? Or G.B. so I can make some changes that would help, I read there is a solution to this issue for G.B. phones, (I'm not sure what impact that would have on my service). But frankly neither of these options I want to follow! I feel trapped!
Also there is nothing disclosing to me what apps have access to what data port. I would feel better if I could see a true list of what each app has access to. Not just on the phone but also on the app store, information detected and provided by hardware and not submitted by the programmer. No offence to all you GOOD programmers out there, but there are many that can't be trusted. An example of my need for this disclosure, does Remote (apple's iTunes remote) access the data network or just the WI-FI? Of course I would ASUME it only accesses the WI-FI. But reading the support page and description for it left me unsure, and it's this unsure feeling that scares me with this whole situation hanging over me. The home pages and the apps themselves are like a mine field to me. Another simple question reflecting this. Does the weather app regularly check for forecast data, or does it only do it when I open the app? What if I mistakenly click it while my data network is active? Sounds harmless doesn't it? But to me a mistake like that adds around $5 to my bill which is already pushing my budget. It would also be useful to be able to control each apps access privileges independently; but I would settle for a simple setting that has them all prompt me for access to the data network instead of just switching to it when there is a short WI-FI dropout.
I love the iPhone but I'm starting to feel I chose the wrong product. It has too many fluent network features (imagine saying that!) and it makes too many assumptions about my situation, most of which are wrong. The iPhone is the wrong product for someone who lives where I live and doesn't have basement full of gold! But I am stuck with this contract, what are my options?
Your's sincerely, life long Apple supporter…

Answer 1

Question 1. I already asked this, Can I removed the Apple default apps?
No. But you can turn off automatic syncing and Push email and set the phone to retrieve mail manually.
Question 2. Can I control the way apps access the data network?
Sort of. Turn on Airplane mode which will disable the cellular modem then turn on WiFi only. With Airplane mode ON and WiFi ON, your phone will only connect to the internet using an available WiFi connection.
I can't find a way to prevent apps from using it or switching to it when my WI-FI drops momentarily.
Apps do not run in the background so they only way an app can attempt to connect is if you have it running. If you do not run the app, it cannot run up your bill. For Apps that have "background" notification, you can turn that option off in the settings for each of those apps.
Question 3. Is it possible for the mobile provider to turn my data network off while leaving the cellular network active?
That is up to your provider. Call them. Go into Settings, General, Network, and turn OFF Data Roaming.
Question 4. I'm trapped in a tough spot, is there something "technical" I can do, that I haven't mentioned bellow? There must be something to elevate the situation.
In the US, you can return the phone within thirty days and void the contract. If you do not have that option, or if you are past thirty days, you can pay the ETF (Early Termination Fee) and void the contract.
I live in a very rural area in the US and I have used all of the techniques listed above at different times. I hope this helps; I "get it" that a huge Surprise! data roaming bill at the end of the month can be upsetting. Try the stuff I listed above and if none of that works, paying the ETF might be cheaper than paying Surprise! bills every month.
Hope this was helpful.