Adobe: Can you either 1) not update so frequently or 2) fix the acceptance processing for it?

Question

I've just waded through many, many pages of entries to find if anyone has asked this and haven't found a precise match so please forgive me if I am (re)covering something of this specific nature.
This is addressed to Adobe itself, having found no other way to contact them directly due to time/location/etc or an email address, and it is, I guess rhetorical: more something to be acted upon if possible than requiring an explicit textual response.
Judging by a google of related questions (and the auto-complete bringing up, for example "why does adobe update so much?") it is obviously something that doesn't just effect me.  I DO wish to have an up-to-date version of Flash Player and PDF Reader, etc, but I find the way it is handled by Adobe to be incredibly intrusive and annoying. 
1) IF you really do need to make so many updates, it suggests, if I may say, something is amiss in your software development lifecycle - ie concentrating on getting things right before release.  IF you don't, then please reduce their frequency.
2) IF you do need to make the updates (and in fact even if you don't), please can you do *something* about the user-interface / process of managing their installation for the end-user?  I've lost count of the number of times I've given it the go-ahead and then gone off to do something else, only to return to find a dialogue box has popped up (probably right as I turned my back) to ask for further verification, and not just once either.  In addition I'm getting advised of things that I believe either were never a problem or are no longer a problem, contrary to this advice.  I guess my suggestion would be to try to deal with any and all of these things, where in fact they are indeed necessary, at ONCE - one dialogue box, one break in the line of thought that probably prompted the user to turn on the computer in the first place.
This is one of those things that I'm amazed has persisted for as long as it has: at least a year or two, perhaps several.  For me personally, and I suspect for many others, it's one of the more frustrating events of regular computer use.  Please, please, can you do something to resolve it?
Thank-you.
Regards,
Chris

Answer 1

Thanks Jeff.  Yes, it did give me that option, but I chose not to take it as I prefer to a) retain control over what gets onto my hard-drive and when, and b) be able to have an idea of my bootup time (ie if in a hurry to do something, be able to put off a new update until a later time.)
But the second point of my original post still stands - if it was possible to compile the two or more points of interaction via dialogue boxes, into one (eg yes, I want to install; yes, I agree with the terms; yes, please leave my install as manual; go!) it would be greatly appreciated.  That way you avoid the scenario resulting from slower computers and/or internet connections where the user gives the process the go-ahead, goes off to do something else, returns to do what they have to do on the computer and finds it's been sitting there waiting for more input and therefore still not fully booted and ready to use.
Thanks very much for the explanation!