Buggy Mail in OSX Lion

Question

I am quite dissapointed by what happens in Mail since Mountain Lion upgrade. So many strange primitive bugs that make everyday work very annoying. Is this "the most advance OS" ??
1) adding photos to email (actual size): you add some photos and message size still shows 10kb (!!), (unlike before), you have no control over message size as before (when changing to "large", the real size is suddenly shown)
(that Aperture, where it is set sharing /email /full size pictures/ adds in result just extremely small pictures in the mail body and is unuseable for direct adding photos in the mail is another chapter of strange bugs)
2) Inbox - your sent email to somebody's address is shown in Inbox as an email from the sender with your sent text - grouping by conversation (makes no sense)
3) When email is received where there are multiple conversations - in the preview pan on the left I don't see the preview of the last fresh email, but of some of the older ones  (not like before) - a bit uncomfortable and illogical. Only after clicking on it I see the fresh mail
4) After doing the search in the inbox and collecting the view to all the mails from a certain sender, I see all of them labeled by my name (the bold title) not by sender's name. Very illogical and also not like always before
5) Any created mailbox - sort by "TO" - no way ... I only see all (10 000 emails) with my name as a sender ... (no indication to whom they were sent) - that's absolutely horrible ..
6) With a setting - group emails as conversation , very strange groups are made: just because ONLY the subject is the same, I see grouped mails that has NOTHING to do with each other . I suppose that grouping the email by conversation - the subject AND the other person must be the same, otherwise it makes absolutely no sense
7) Sending 1 email (only 1 account) and I can see a progress line : "sending 2 outgoing messages" - all the time
8) moving larger amount of emails from one mail box to another is a nightmare: Mail freezes most of the time (rainbow circle ) etc. Today Inbox content started even flashing - previews and empty space periodically changing ...
Either I overlooked something in all the cases (then I deeply apologise) or I am strongly thinking about another email programme or OS ... Even some old outlook has not behaved like this ... Are the people from Apple not aware of it ?

Answer 1

Aperture setting:
Wanting to share the photo in the email:
This is the result :
It is incredibly strange and annoying and never happened like this before. Now I am unable to send photos directly from Aperture and have to export them first (very uncomfortable)
And regarding sorting emails by (date, from etc,) - if I select sort by TO - I still see only the (bold) name of the sender in all the messages (preview column), it does not change to addressee names ... Impossible to simply see all the mails you sent to somebody ... you see only YOUR name as a sender ... very weird ...
Other issues more clearly:
Selected: sort messages by conversation (messages should be grouped by conversation - that should be rather practical). You keep exchanging email with John Smith with subject Greeting. They in one conversation. But in the same conversation there are also included emails with the subject Greeting that you wrote to George Bush 3 years ago !!  It makes no sense. A "conversation" should be within the same subject AND the same people . Otherwise it is a mess without sense ...
(new in Snow Lion)
Messages sorted and grouped by conversation. You receive a message withing ongoing conversation. You look at the preview pane (column in the left). But in the preview you do not see the beginning and preview of the message that just came but of some older message in the conversation. To see the one which just came, you have to fully open the message. (before you naturally saw the preview and beginning of the message that just came)