Can I sync iCal between two iPhones?

Question

My wife and I each have a Mac and an iPhone and MobileMe. We each use iCal, which syncs wonderfully well for each of us, separately. What I want to do is be able to enter some shared events and have them sync to both desktops and both iPhones. I know I can create a shared calendar and publish it to MobileMe and then have her subscribe it, BUT that puts the event in a read-only status on her desktop only, and not on the iPhone.
I'm led to believe that OS 3.0 will solve this. Is that true? Is there a solution now, and if so, is there one that I won't have to undo when 3.0 comes out?

Answer 1

We have one MM account for the both of us [email protected]
Ok i'll try the instructions bit now
All this is done from the MM web interface
First we stopped the home computers syncing to MM
Then we set up two email aliases [email protected] and [email protected]
that way we can each have an individual email address and a shared one as well
We then filter the email coming in so they go to a folder named for each of us or if it's sent to the main MM email account it stays in the inbox (though you can just leave it so all mail to both of you along with the main email will go into the inbox)
choose Actions(the little gear symbol)>Preferences>Aliases tab to manage aliases
For calendars you go to the calendar view
Then on the left click on the + symbol or right click and choose to create new calendar we created three "us" (for shared events), "myself" (for me), "mywife" (for my wife) and assigned a colour to each
on the iPhone
go to settings>Mail,Contacts,Calendars>Default Calendar>(appropriate calendar for each iPhone)
This means that when you create a calendar entry it will default to being in your colour
If you want to create a calendar entry for your wife when you add a new event there is an option to choose the calendar you add it to, once the event is added though you can't edit this afterwards.
The default view is to see all calendar entries for everyone if you just want to see your events open Calendar>Calendars then select the appropriate calendar to just view that calendars events the calendar will remember this setting for next time
Once this was done we re-sync'd the home computers to MobileMe and they picked up the multiple calendars and displayed the entries accordingly so no setup was required on them.
Hope this helps if you want me to expand on any points let me know as i tried to keep it as brief as possible while still providing a reasonable guide.