Can't sync Verizon V3 with computer

Question

Very frustrating. I finally found a phone I like, that takes the place of my long-lost Startac, and the iSync website specifically says it can sync addressbook and calendar with the V3. But not Verizon's, I guess.
Verizon just brought out their V3. It is identical to anybody else's, except instead of quad-band, I guess it's CDMA. It doesn't use a SIM card.
Now, either my Titanium doesn't have bluetooth, or the bluetooth 1.0 spec that it does support is useless. I went out and bought a $40 BT 2.0 dongle. Well, the computer at least recognizes there's a phone sitting next to it and pairs with it, but when asked what I want to do with the device, I get ONLY the checkbox for using it as an internet modem. No option for syncing calendar and contacts.
In iSync, I can also get the computer to recognize that there is a device, but then it states that the device is not supported. No ifs, ands, or buts. That's as far as I can get. No device appears between the .mac and sync icons.
My phone didn't come with a USB cable. Am I going to have to buy a special one? I tried a standard USB cable off a printer and it won't charge the phone, even.
So am I doing something wrong, or do I just need to go back to using my Kyocera palm-os brick?

Answer 1

You make good points about Apple's software needing an update; but I can't sit and wait an untold amount of time before the update happens. I'm curious as to WHY iSync can't communicate with all V3's; the fact that it can't points to hardware changes with the V3c's (which I can confirm from inspection) as well as possible software problems on Verizon's side. I am always suspicious of the fact that their phones have to be "programmed" over the air - I suspect that last-minute encoding actually reduces functionality.
As for the look and feel -- I didn't like their unworkable red-bars interface and the Verizon version of the V3 lacks the "menu" key in between the left and right softkeys.
The only strength Verizon still has over competitors is signal coverage and consistency. But Cingular is rapidly catching up (and Sprint rents their lines from Verizon!). Anywhere I need to go is always a major metro area; and my parents, who live in a motorhome and travel extensively, have moved to Cingular with no signal problems - at least along interstates and such. The backwoods of Wisconsin, I don't know about.
Apple's iSync compatibility list has many Motorla phones listed - only ONE non-V3 is carried by Verizon that I can see. And obviously there's problems with the new V3c. This almost non-existent relationship between Apple and Verizon is unacceptable - I chose to go the easy route and have been rewarded with a phone that has MORE functionality and customizability. I can't put a price on that.