Connecting to remote database using Connector/J

Question

I'm new to JDBC so be gentle.
Basically i'm trying to connect to a remote database from my own computer (client to server). As far as I know i'm doing everything correctly. Am I correct in thinking that Connector/J is native to JDK versions 1.2 and up? Which in turn means that I don't have to install any other drivers as long as i have the JDK installed?
public void loadDriver() {
        try {
            Class.forName("com.mysql.jdbc.Driver").newInstance();
        catch (Exception ex) {
            System.out.println("Cannot load driver");
    }Ok, here's my loadDriver() method which isn't working and causes nothing else to work because it doesn't work. I'm getting the information from the mySQL documentation here: http://dev.mysql.com/doc/connector/j/en/cj-registering-with-driver-manager.html
Not sure what's going wrong here, help would be very much appreciated
Regards

Answer 1

Ok i ended up putting the correct .jar file into the correct dir finally. It seems as though some of the instructions in the documentation are incorrect.
Ok i am now able to load the driver but the connection keeps timing out when trying to connect to the database.
At the moment i'm trying the following:
con = DriverManager.getConnection("jdbc:mysql://kezzer.co.uk/db", "username", "password");But it doesn't seem to be working. Obviously i'm not using those exact strings for the database, username and password but that's the format it's currently in. Any ideas?