How can i get my daughter's imessage on my iphone and still have it show up on her ipod as an unread message

Question

I have my iPhone setup so I can also get all of the iMessages that my daughter sends and receives on her iPod. The problem is that if I read the message first then it doesn't show up as a new message on her iPod and therefore she doesn't know that a message was sent. Is there a way that I can get my daughter's iMessage on my iPhone and still have it show up on her iPod as an unread message? Any ideas from anyone will help. I can't figure it out

Answer 1

HI,
I am not sure that I can really add anything to to this.
Apple used the phrase "sync" when saying what Messages on the Mac would do in regards to showing iMessages that were going to iOS devices.
It took to OS X 10.8.2 and iOS 6 to get as close as we have right now.
At best it looks like "Sync" means "Display on all Devices" and not much more.
The Mac version implies it will do more as there is a setting to notify people by return that you have read the iMessage.
The iOS devices have a similar "Send Receipts" item in the settings.
However actually reading an iMessage on one device seems to bear very little resemblance to anything that happens or can be seen on another device.
It seems for most people reading an  iMessage on one device shows nothing at all on another device (the presumption being it arrives all places at the same time)
Your post is the closest I have seen to someone suggesting that it can be different on different devices.
You also seem to be implying that there is almost a time difference it the time your iPhone gets the iMessage and the time the iPod touch gets it.
I have certainly seen the "silent arrival" of iMessages on both my iPhone (when my computer and Messages is On) and on the iPhone if the conversation started on the Mac.
The Mac end will show both "Sent" and Received sides as it "Syncs" the conversation and beeps the alert sound for the Received part and the iPhone will remain silent.
Even "talking it through" like this in this post I am not coming to any real conclusions about what to try.
I am not even sure what to suggest to test for things to look out for.
10:13 PM      Monday; January 21, 2013
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