How can I make my e71 stop beeping

Question

The appointments have a default alarm set at 15 minutes before the appointment. What's worse, the alarm entry is not visible when setting an alarm, so the display offers no reminder about this idiotic setting I don't seem to be able to do anything about.
I have even opted to turn off calender alarm sound, willing to sacrifice the alarm functionality just so I wouldn't need to deal with the annoyance, but cannot do that either.
The only way would be to have the phone profile on silent and effectively turn off all sounds - that would include incoming calls. Can't have that.
This is happening only with the 'improved' calendar of the E71, none of my previous nokias going back to mid-90's had the 'feature'. This is unfortunately all too common thing Nokia does - improve what once was a damn near perfect operation and make it practically useless. Sports tracker, my fav app until someone decided the map on two inch screen must be cluttered with the track titles of music I am listening to (It is still usable if I listen to my iPod, instead)
I currently start my every day, going through every appointment and check the alarm is off, and swear that I wait for the next fw update to fix this before I ditch the phone for a lower maintenance one.
Oh... another real annoyance with the E71, if you are listening, Nokia. Why do i have to go through the ritual of turning off flash EVERY TIME I start the camera when ALL pics except the ones taken in near total darkness turn out better without the LED flash.
6267, N81, E71, BH-503, MD-7W, LD-3W

Answer 1

Yes, I know I can set the calendar off every time I make an appointment.
I try to explain this more clearly.
In all my previous Nokias, the calendar alarm has been off by default. In the unlikely event that I ever needed an audible reminder, I have been able to set it as I set the alarm.
With the E71, this has been reversed: I will have the audible alarm unless I expressly set it Off every time I make an appointment.
The E71 gives no visual reminder about the things having been changed, as the visual alarm edit field is off screen, and I will have to scroll down to see/edit it. Setting up appointments on the move the alarm is not, and should not need to be, the first thing on my mind. The client I am talking to is actually paying for my time, not for me to figure out how my calendar works.
My days are loaded, with short meetings with hardly any time between them, which means that even the default 15 min warning more often than not disrupts a previous meeting. Pointlessly, as I am already well aware about how many minutes I have to take me to the next one.
I want an option in my business phone of that not happening, an option to make appointments with no alert by default. Trust me, if I had two appointments a day, one of which is to gfo shopping with mom, this wouldn't bother me. But as I said... BUSINESS phone. Seriously, if you don't see how that is a problem, you either can afford the luxury of keeping your phone at silent, don't use the calendar very much.
6267, N81, E71, BH-503, MD-7W, LD-3W