I hate Mountain Lion! How do I get rid of menus?

Question

I was hoping I'd get the Mac Book Pro with Lion, and I could wait for Mt Lion til it had a few upgrades of debugging.
I have a mail program problem that I have up here already.  BUT
how do you unenable these little menus/options that pop up all the time?  I don't use them.  I am just putting in a cursor to add something, correct a spelling, move something, bold something and these menus pop up that won't go away. I click and click and click and it takes forever to get them to go away so I can do what I want to do. Before on previous OS, once in awhile those menus would pop up and I would click to the side and they'd go away, and I'd go back to what I wanted to do.  Now these menus just won't go away. Keeps insisting I am going to use them or I'm not going to progress. A lot of times it isn't even items I want to do.
I just want to put the cursor in a spot and make a correction....I probably have put years of clicking on this brand new laptop already!
Hopefully someone can tell me how to disable them.  I'm ready to throw the computer in the garbage!

Answer 1

sorry it's taken so long to get back to you.  I've gotten the Kindle 'bug' and trying to get a book online by Oct!
ok, this is one of them. I found that if the top of the Safari screen, particularly, is too close to the Tool bar, it picks up the toolbar and won't let me do anything.  When I finally pulled it down away from there, then it got it out of the toolbar 'zone', but I'm used to putting the window(?) up right to the tool bar to utilize the whole computer screen. That was one issue.
I was trying to get birthdays off of IMDB, so I would go up, and normally click on the url, insert at the date, backspace, put in next date, and 'return' and it would go to the next page.  When I would do this with the new laptop, it would give me yet another type of menu (of course it won't do it now) and I couldn't get it to go away and let me just insert cursor and change date.  I had to click outside the spot about 10 times and try it again before I outwitted it and it gave up. On every url for EVERY page for 30 days or more. Must have aged the laptop a couple of years!  Before, well a) I never use these 'helpful pull downs" or whatever they are, but on the IMac or the MacBook before, when they came up, I'd just click off to the side - they would go away, stay gone and let me do I want to do.  Basically, I want to insert cursor and make a correction or insert something, and it insists I'm going to do it its way, making me click in 2-3 steps rather than a click or double click as I did before. . So many things on Mt Lion wants to click sequentially in 2-3 different steps on these 'menus', rather than just click on the word or insertion point. A lot of times the menus don't even refer to what I'm doing if I did use them.
ok let's see if I can put another one in the same.
I just want to disable them.  As the computer is 'breaking in' now doesn't seem to be doing it as much, but just as I think it is, then they pop up incessantly again. 
This is another type - I might just want to change spelling, or delete....just want to insert cursor and be left alone, and it comes up with all this.  Maybe some people like it. I don't want to click any more times than I have to. don't want to go from menu to sub menu to sub menu, when I don't want any of it to begin with, or I can do it myself from the top where I'm familiar with it all with the program itself..
Thanks.