I want 2 xp users to share one library

Question

My wife and I share a computer and each have a logon under XP. I have our iTunes pointing to my "shared" "my music" folder.
I have read several posts and find it hard to believe that every time one user adds a song or disc to their library, the other has to manually add that file or folder even if they are sharing the same library folder.
Post below mentions "sharing one common, identical Library database". How do I do this? Post I read is below.
It doesn't matter to which music folder location you have each User's iTunes account pointing: same directory or different directories. iTunes creates and maintains individual Library databases for each user (the 'iTunes library.itl' file), These are created and stored within the 'My Documents\My Music\iTunes' folder of each user.
As iTunes does not have an auto-scan or update feature, you need to 'Add' (as hudgie indicated), the main music folder (or individual sub-folders) within the opposite User each time you add music to the other User's Library.
Other than sharing one common, identical Library database across the two users, this is the best you can do.
Someone MUST know how to remedy this problem?
AMD Athalon 1.25   Windows XP Pro  

Answer 1

To follow up on hudgie’s answer, both users will need to run TweakUi and designate the same path and folder for their 'My Music' special folder.
Once that happens, iTunes should use the same location for the 'iTunes Library.itl' file for each user.
I would suggest creating a 'C:\Data\My Music\iTunes' folder, have each user specify that 'My Music' sub-folder as the special folder within TweakUI. iTunes should now use the 'iTunes' folder in that path to store its database file.
You can designate any folder to deposit the music files, but I would suggest 'C:\Data\My Music\iTunes\iTunes Music' for consistency and ease of backup.