ICloud calendar/contacts sync on PC via Outlook 2010 - clumsy or me?

Question

I recently added iCloud to sync calendar, contacts and tasks from Outlook 2010 on my PC to my iPhone 4s.
Generally it works well. If I add a contact on the iPhone, the PC Outlook syncs it fairly quickly via the cloud and works in reverse as well. Exactly what I was hoping for.
After a week or so, I noticed a few irregularities which I am confused about. Not in syncing the data but what it did to my PC Outlook 2010 calendar.
In installing the iCloud sync, I saw that iCloud copied my calendar items to another calendar named iCloud calendar and deleted all of the calendar items from the "default" Outlook calendar. But they are not really deleted from the "default" calendar. I guess I was not expecting this level of intrusion by iCloud. Not a huge issue but I am still getting some alerts from the iCloud calendar and the "normal" Outlook calendar which is apparently duplicating the alerts. This is issue 1. In Outlook 2010 you can check which calendar you want to see and not include some calendars if you prefer.  I have defaulted to ony checking the iCloud calendar and not the default Outlook calendar.
The other issue is since the iCloud calendar sort of replaced the "default" calendar in Outlook 2010, the Outlook menu structure defaults to the Outlook default calendar and contacts (which is now empty) and so I have to constantly change "which contact store or calendar store to look into" in Outlook to do many functions such as find people in contacts, email addressing (using the Outlook "recent people you have emailed cache") which is a bit of a pain and seems to be necessary far to often.
So, I am asking the community; do I need to make some other setting options (IPhone 4s or Outlook 2010 on the PC) to return to a more automatic selection of the iCloud contact and calendar store so that I don't have to constantly keep changing the "look into" option?
Maybe to confuse this even further, I have a new iPad 2 which I would like to keep the calendar and contacts synched via iCloud.
I hope I have articulated this well enough as the issue seems to be a bit complicated to describe.
Thx DD

Answer 1

I had the EXACT same problem and heard about CodeTwo Sync for iCloud. I downloaded and installed the 30-day trial version. So far I love it! After 30 days it reverts to only syncing the Calendar for free. Its $10 to buy the license key to keep it syncing Calendar and Contacts and Tasks. I'm NOT syncing Tasks with it because I've been using Toodledo and it works well with Categories (Contexts in Toodledo) for doing the GTD system, although I'm looking into other ways I may be use iCloud for my Outlook Tasks WHILE MAINTAING CATEGORIES.
I'm probably going to buy the CodeTwo Sync for iCloud within the 30 day trial. It does exactly what you want it to do: syncs the iCloud account folder with your default Outlook modules/folders - AUTOMATICALLY - without having to do anything (clicking, etc.). THAT's what I'M talkin' about!