Is there a way to run a family network with multiple Apple ID's?

Question

My wife and I (married one week) have both individually and together been using Apple products for awhile. I have been so pleased that I decided that
in our house I was going to slowly build an Apple network. Our base station is an Airport Extreme, I have two (soon to be more) rooms with in wall speakers that are wired to Airport Expresses for Airplay purposes, and two Apple TV's. I downloaded the Apple Remote app on my iPhone and have been extremely happy walking into a room and starting up music. I encountered a problem though and in my reading, it appears to be a terrible flaw in Apple's Home Share. My wife has her own Macbook and iPhone under her own Apple ID. And why shouldn't she? She has her own iWork for her job, contacts, email, Photo Stream, and settings. But now we live under one roof. While we are individuals, we are building a household. There are certain things like music and movies that we should not have to have two computers for. Her Macbook is work oriented and has very little media on it. My iMac however has been a central point for all media in the house. As I said before I use the Apple Remote app to control my computer for Airplay and to control the Apple TV's. Eager to participate, she downloaded the app, but my library does not appear because her ID is different. There was a time when she could play my library through her iTunes when she was on my network. All I had to do was give her my password. This is no longer the case. Before I get sent to the generic Apple FAQ, you should know I have read it. The suggestion to make seperate login accounts on my computer and share the library. This still keeps them seperate. She would still have to go into the office, and switch accounts and then return to the room where she was to start the music. And then I would have to change it back to regain control. She can still use Airplay to play what is on her phone, but there is very little media there and it is also a battery drain to do so. My iMac has steady power and steady signal. I am open to suggestions if someone has found a way around this issue. But Apple should know that for a company that advertises in promoting family, this restriction *****. I'm sure they do it in the name of anti-piracy, but their 5 device rule and super security already did that.
Terry Monaghan

Answer 1

Think of all this as two entities, 1. your Apple ID's and 2. Apple services (and by services I mean iCloud, iTunes, Home Sharing, Messages, FaceTime, Support Communities etc etc).
You can choose to use a different ID for each service, thereby creating the flexibility you are looking for.
For iCloud (which syncs contacts, mail, calendars etc) I suggest you each use your own ID, this means you will have your own contacts etc.
For iTunes, you might use separate ID's or you might both use the same one, I make no suggestion here because there are benefits to both ways. You may want to keep your music, movie, books and app purchases separate or you may want to unite them to avoid potentially paying for things twice.
For Home Sharing I suggest you use just one ID, it doesn't matter who's it is, so long as you both use the same one, this will ensure that any device using home Sharing can see and play the content from anyone's library on the same network (regardless of which ID it uses for iTunes) that is logged into the same home sharing account.