N95 autofocus problem software related

Question

I've had an N95 for more than a year. Part of the reason I bought it was the 8 GB - could take lots of pictures and video. I'm very disappointed. For reference, I am an eye doctor. I know a lot about prescribing glasses, I know optics, and I have done quite a lot of photography.
As with most cameras, the N95 "take picture" key may be partly depressed to get the focus, then fully depressed to actually take the picture. (Auto mode.) It then takes sharp pictures, if lighting conditions are right, and the phone is held steadily.
It can focus on everything from 20 cm or so to infinity. (Try partly depressing the button, you'll see the picture go in and out of focus, then fix on the sharpest setting.) (With some of the other modes, EG landscape, the focus is "fixed," IE, the camera does not try to autofocus, and you can take pictures a lot quicker.)
So - the fact is established - the N95 hardware is capable of mechanical focussing, and some of its software can also detect which focus setting is the best. So it is not "handicapped" from birth. It should be possible to do something sensible with it. However, it behaves as a gifted child with an attitude problem. "No, mommy, I don't WANT to do homework!" (It's not that the homework is too hard.)
However, there are three big problems:
1) In "landscape" mode, the focus is not on infinity, it is closer. Thus, pictures of faraway objects taken in this mode are not sharp.
2) The most vexing. When in video mode THE FOCAL LENGTH IS FIXED - and cannot be adjusted. Mine is sharp at 30-50 cm, but out of focus at distance. It SHOULD BE SHARP AT INFINITY! Who's interested in filming stuff at 30 cm distance? I cannot express with a keyboard alone how annoyed I've been. Sometimes I've put my eyeglasses (I'm nearsighted) over the lens, and the video becomes a lot better.
3) There is no way to adjust focus "manually," even though it should be technically possible. 
So, spare me the condescending stuff about image compression, light conditions etc. **bleep**! And, YES, of course I have set the "video quality" to "TV high quality." Doesn't help. THE PROBLEM IS PURELY OPTICAL! Otherwise my eyeglasses would not help. No, they don't enlarge the image, they just help the focus. (And, no, you cannot borrow my glasses )
I've seen a lot of other discussions about this issue with the N95. None of them seem to give a good answer. Neither have I found a way of taking charge over the focal length. So, my questions are:
*    Has Nokia come up with a solution? Has anyone who has sent the N95 in for service actually gotten some help?
*    Is there some other software one can install that can do a better job than the **bleep** cam software of Nokia?
*    Is it possible to hack or tweak the existing software to change the set points for video? (I assume it goes into a mode like this: "Set focus at 034, resolution at VGA" etc. The "034" (a totally random number, not related to anything) doesn't fix on infinity. Could I hack the setting so that it goes "Set focus at 015, resolution at VGA"? (Of course, one would have to change numbers a couple of times to get it right.)
The N95 promised so much, but delivers so little (the camera is not the only problem), it is giving me an ulcer. Next  time I'm not really motivated to get a Nokia! I want revenge. Apple, can you make me happy? 

Answer 1

Just a little addon - yes, I have the latest software / firmware updates installed.