Sync problems between iPhone4 and MBP

Question

I want to copy the Contacts from my iPhone to my MBP and overwrite what is on it, and Contacts not on my iPhone that are on my Mac, I want brought over.
I have:
Two contact lists; on my iPhone4 5.0.1 and MBP 10.7.3
I am using Outlook for Mac 2011
Some contacts are identical on both devices, but my phone has the more current info of contacts, even ones that share the same name on the MBP
When I connect the iPhone via iTunes, the Contacts on both iPhone and MBP sync together, and here is where the problem begins.
The info from the MBP will go to the phone and create duplicates. And the next time I connect via iTunes, it will even create a triplicate on my iPhone! and on and on.
So I want to make the contact list on my iPhone go to my Mac, and whatever is on my Mac and not on my iPhone, to be brought over.
Does anyone know the steps to make it happend this way? I have searched the forums and not finding an answer. Thanks.

Answer 1

I'm not sure there is an easy solution to this but I'll at least give you an idea.  I don't think there is any way around having to identify which contacts on your mac are unique (not on the iphone); that's the hard part.  Then I would do the following:
I would work with Address Book as that can import and multi-VCF (vCards) than can be exported from the iPhone (more on that in a minute).  I assume if you can get the contacts correct in mac Address Book, importing them to Outlook would be a straightforward process (although I don't use Outlook 2011 for mac so I'm not sure)
As a precaution I would start by exporting your mac Address Book contacts for safekeeping.  This is done by opening Address Book, click on any contact, select all contacts (command-A or Edit>Select All), then File>Export>Export vCard, save on the desktop.
I would then delete all contacts except the ones unique to Address Book (i.e., not on the iPhone)
Next download the free app My Contacts Backup on your phone (paid version if you have > 500 contacts).  This will back up your iPhone contacts as an attachment to an email.  Send this email to yourself and open it on your mac, double-click the attachment to import the contacts to Address Book.  Your Address Book contacts should now be the way you want them.  (Do not delete the email as you may need it later.)
Now replace the contacts on your iPhone with the contacts in your mac Address Book.  As you did before, open Address Book and click on any contact, select all (Command-A), File>Export>Export vCard, save on the desktop with a different filename that the last one.
Open My Contacts Backup on your phone, tap the Settings (gear) icon on the lower right.  In the screen that opens, scroll to the bottom and tap Remove All Contacts.  (Don't worry, you saved the original email so if anything goes wrong you can use it to re-import them as they are now.)
Open the new email you sent with your mac Address Book contacts, tap the attachment to import them to your iPhone.
You should now have identical contacts on both your iPhone and your mac Address Book, with a merged up to date list.
Not sure how you sync your mac Address Book to Outlook, but I assume that  can be done (even if you have to delete your Outlook contacts and import your Address Book ones as a replacement).  Hope this helps.