TS1741 Apple remote app on iPad & iPhone cannot find library

Question

I have used the Apple remote app on my ipad in the past, controlling my computer and also my stereo using airport express.  I haven't used it in a few months, decided to have another look at it and have run into trouble.  I keep getting 'could not find' when I try to add my itunes library. 
Itunes can see my iPad, when I try to add the library it pops up in ituned to put the passcode in.  My wifi is working fine in the house on both iPad and iPhone.  I have deleted and re-added the app, upgraded to the new itunes, restarted computer, tried using the Remote App on my iphone.  All the same thing.  I've also done everything in the help section for the problem.
Please help, I really need this to work as we are having a big party and was going to use this instead of a juke box. 

Answer 1

Try quitting the app and then reset your iPad.
Go to the Home screen and double click the Home button. That will reveal the row of recently used apps at the bottom of the screen. Tap and hold on the app in question until it jiggles and displays a minus sign. Tap the minus sign to actually quit the app. Then tap anywhere on the screen above that bottom row to return the screen to normal. Then reset your device. Press and hold the Home and Sleep buttons simultaneously ignoring the red slider should one appear until the Apple logo appears. Let go of the buttons and let the device restart. See if that fixes your problem.