Update wiped my libraries and didn't make a backup file, what now?

Question

Using window 7 64bit
Ever since I moved to windows 7 itunes has given me nothing but problems. if I plugged in my ipod or iphone or any other USB device while itunes was open, the PC would either BOSD or completely lock up so you can't move the mouse, ctrlaltdel or anything. Because of this, it already wiped my phone once at the stage where the phone is rebooted during the update, I was thankfully able to restore a backup after a lot of work (which included downgrading itunes. it still freezes if anything is plugged in while itunes is open, but it let me restore and update the phone).
Because of that, I refused to update itunes for months. Today, I made the mistake of updating this POS software and guess what? It not only wiped my libraries, but it didn't make a backup I could restore to before it upgraded.
On the up side, it no longer crashes my PC if I attach or remove my phone with itunes open! Yay! but seeing as there are no library backups and it won't let me sync the **** thing because it's set to another library so it will only wipe it, making me lose all my important contacts & notes and apps and everything else, there's really no point to use itunes now, is there? I don't care about music libraries at this point, it's a huge hassle to redo it all, but if I can't sync my phone without losing everything I might as well just get another phone that doesn't put me through this every few months.
Is there ANYTHING I can do to get my files off my phone/transfer from the phone to the PC instead of doing a full wipe? itunes has to be the worst software I've ever used, and as a product analyst it's my job to work with really buggy software all day.

Answer 1

Ever since I moved to windows 7 itunes has given me nothing but problems. if I plugged in my ipod or iphone or any other USB device while itunes was open, the PC would either BOSD or completely lock up so you can't move the mouse, ctrlaltdel or anything.
Let's start with trying to clear that one up.
What make and model of PC do you have? If it's a custom/home-built PC, what make and model of motherboard do you have?
(I want to check to see if it's got either an nVidia chipset or an Intel 5-series chipset.)