Why is Nokia Phone to Ovi suite connection such a ...

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I  have a Nokia E63 and if I had as much trouble with my computer's network connection as I have with a plain and simple old USB connecttion between the E63 and the OviSuite (PCSuite is the same)  and my windows were not double glazed, I would have chucked the lot in to the garden.
If the phone is attached to the computer when the computer is Cold booted, then no problems, it appears and conversation between Phone and computer is okay.
If the computer is already running, and I then connect the phone, the Nokia connectionapp   insists there is no phone connected and will not find or make a connection.
The phone reports it is connected by PCSuite and USB, unfortunately the Nokia software on the PC doesn't think it exists.
Probably because in Control Panel-System-Hardware tab the Nokia items now have the Yellow exclaimation mark on them.
Properties on them shows "This Device cannot start".
Even manually forcing a Start doesn't solve anything.
If I go to  Control Panel-Add or Remove Programs, find the  Nokia connectivity cable driver and force a repair, then upon connecting the phone I get a note of  a new device and some stuff is reinstalled.
USB Mass storage is not a problem, regardless of when the phone is connected.
I've had a look around the net for advice or solutions, but the general concensus seems to be, Nokia connectivity is the Brown waste stuff.
FWIW. I've uninstalled/reinstalled a number of times, I've changed the USB port used by the cable on the computer, it is connected directly to the computers USB (Rear) port, NOT through a Hub.
I'm totally lost now, so hoping someone here might have a useful thought or two.
Have contacted Nokia support but just got the usual crib sheet answers.
Dave
Forgot to mention, it is the latest version of the Nokia Connectivity cable driver.
D.

Answer 1

Summary of  where I'm at now.
I've done the total uninstall... Excise Nokia from the Registry, remove stuff from My profile Application data, and the file from Sys32\Drivers etc, three times.
Thereafter done the reinstall.
I'm still in the same boat as I was before, the problem resolutely refuses to be fixed.
So Phone connected at Boot works, thereafter force a Nokia cable driver repair.
On XP that's Control Panel- Add or Remove Programs, scroll to Nokia Connectivity cable driver, Hilight it and click 'Change' up will come the Repair or uninstall window.
(Make sure phone is disconnected for this operation).
On Win 7  it's Control Panel- Programs and Features.
Nokia support, via crib sheet readers only seems interested in two things.
1) Are you using a Nokia brand cable?
2) We'd like you to go through the total uninstall process...
No ...king chance, after doing it three times already.
So I've worked on this with three total uninstalls.
Three different cables.
A number of emails and a couple of phone calls from Nokia support, nada.
This problem is only evident on one machine running XP-SP3.
On the Win 7 Laptop it works perfectly okay everytime.
Interestingly, this problem is on  the newest computer I have, only just two years old.
On another old computer I dug out of a cupboard and set up again, also running XP-SP3 the connectivity works perfectly okay.
There's just some niggle between the USB on this particular computer and the cable driver.
I get the impression, not only from this forum, but hints from the support guy that this problem has been around for a while, and my concerns have been escalated to a higher support level.
Luckily I only really need to Sync my data once a week, so I can manage with the Force cable driver repair measure, but if I needed to sync every day, I would be really p*ss*d off about it.
It has been suggested... Why don't I just use the Win 7 Laptop to backup and sync the phone... Think about it for one second... As both the phone and the Laptop are out and about in the 'Wild' world together, it not going to be a very secure backup arrangement.
Ax