Flash mp3 player (pause player while the mp3 loads)

Question

The following text below is apart of the mp3 player that I have that plays a song, but when the website is launched the song playes right away, which I DO NOT WANT.   how do i add a mute to this so that it does not affect the loading process.
fscommand("allowscale", "false");
dd = new Sound();
dd.loadSound(http://www.mywebsite/song/example/link, true);
xx = bar._width;
orginal_width = bar._width;
_root.soundbtndis._visible = false;
_root.soundbtndis.disabled = true;
this.onEnterFrame = function() {
t1 = int(dd.duration/1000/60);
t1 = t1+" : "+int((dd.duration/1000-(t1*60)));
ddf = int((dd.duration-dd.position)/1000/60);
elapsed_sec = int((((dd.duration-dd.position)/1000/60)-ddf)*60);
if (elapsed_sec<10) {
  elapsed_sec = "0"+elapsed_sec;
if (ddf<10) {
  ddf = "0"+ddf;
if (_root.stpd) {
  elapsed = _root.t1;
} else {
  elapsed = ddf+" : "+elapsed_sec;
//mo=dd.position/1000
//elapsed = 
vol = dd.getVolume()+" %";
dur = dd.duration;
pos = dd.position;
per = (pos/dur)*100;
m = (pos/dur)*100;
bar._width = (m*xx)/100;
drag._x = _root.bar._width+_root.bar._x;
//drag._y = 136;
if (stpd) {
  xx = 0;
} else {
  xx = orginal_width;
// function keys
if (Key.isDown(67)) {
  pauseit();
if (Key.isDown(88)) {
  playit();
if (Key.isDown(86)) {
  stopit();

Answer 1

this tutorial does not help.
Since we are on this topic, does anyone know of a way to create an mp3 player that pauses other songs in your play list when you hit play?