"Letting Adobe Flash communicate with the internet"

Question

Ok, Here is the deal. I have some .flv video files hosted on my domain with a fantastic looking flash player. It all works great. Except that every time that I change any of the code in the html snippet, or load the page with said snippet on it in iweb, i get this message:
"Adobe Flash Player has stopped a potentially unsafe operation.
The following local application on your computer or network:
iweb-widget:58/$x-html-markup
is trying to communicate with this Internet-enabled location:
my.domain
To let this application communicate with the internet, click settings.
You must restart this application after changing your settings
{OK} {Settings...}"
and here's where my problem comes in. I can click ok, and it apparently just ignores the "security" risk and lets it go through that one time, but the next time I load up the page, I have to do it all over again.
Alternatively, I can click settings, and exactly the same thing happens as when I click ok.
Any idea how to get this message to go away. I understand what the "security" risk is, but I also know exactly what it is that I am hosting and I want to allow it to communicate with my webserver.
For reference, here is the code in my html snippet
"<embed
src="http://my.domain/mediaplayer/player.swf"
width="640"
height="352"
bgcolor="000000"
allowscriptaccess="always"
allowfullscreen="true"
flashvars="file=http://my.domain/movies/shortclip.flv&backcolor=000000&frontcolo r=EEEEEE&lightcolor=000000&screencolor=000000"
/>"
For clarification, when published and uploaded, every thing looks great and runs as it should, but I really hate this amazingly annoying nag message.

Answer 1

I am already using the JW Flash player.
http://www.jeroenwijering.com/?item=JWFLVPlayer
same thing as the link.
That part is working fine. I just need to know how to change the settings so flash player doesn't get angry about it contacting an external site.
Just kind of annoying that every time that I even load up the page to view it in iweb, I have to click to let it contact the external page, for every video on the **** page.