WHAT CAN I DO TO REGAIN CONTROL OF MY I5?? PLS HELP MY X TOOK CONTROL OF MY ROOT MENU

Question

Someone hacked my iPhone 4 & 5 jail broke them & now I can't get any help to resolve this. My x is EXTREMELY TECH SAVVY & he is controlling everything through safari developer (I think) I've paid $600 in IT techs to try n help me all they did was clear out all spy/ad-ware & gave my laptops back. I've called apple several times they REFUSE TO HELP ME!! I'm not sure if its my x or not & can't prove it anyway. But I can't imagine a hacker intercepting my calls, deleting my texts, changing my passwords, turning my phone all the time, etc. I have not been able to access my google, iTunes, safari, yahoo accts since February. I've made all new accts, changed passwords & bang no access to those AGAIN!! I have 10,963 pics in my camera roll that i cant gain access to & my photostream & albums have been deleted. thats only a few goofy thjngs going on. This has been a nightmare. The last time I called apple to review diagnostics in hopes they could find SOMETHING-ANYTHING THAT MIGHT THROW UP A RED FLAG they weren't able to see any of my diagnostics they said. I had at least 10 pages of crashes, logs, etc & this apple csr couldn't help me because she said there's none?? How is that possible? I remember months back seeing something in the diagnostics that said report to apple, blah blah blah FALSE! So I'm assuming that evn though I have my settings to report to apple that he has somehow made it look like diagnostics are on but there really not. Not being tech savvy myself I don't know how to go about fixing this. Being a single mom, going thru a very ugly 2-yr divorce & having a sick mother I don't have the money to keep buying new iPhones. Please please someone help me. Guide me in the right direction & tell me what (if anything) I can do. I was told by a friend that if "he" or they whomever this is wants to they can get into my device anytime they want if there good enough & there's nothing I can do to stop it :'(( this is so unfair that not even apple will protect my privacy & exchange my device. I'm sick over this whole thing. 3 laptops, 2 iPhone 4's, an iphone 5, a nano & an iPad mini are being controlled by this person. There are so many goofy, weird things happening w/my iPhones I couldn't begin to even list them. I've filed a police report w/the local authorities & NOTHING & because I can't prove it may be my x I can't press a harassment charge against him. I'm afraid if I purchase a new iPhone he will hack that one too & ill never be free of this nightmare. Today's my bday & my family couldn't even get thru to me to wish me a happy birthday :'((
Thank you in advance to anyone who has any advice or help for me!!
Tarra D

Answer 1

In trying to include what information all that I could I should have specified I DON'T KNOW THAT IT WAS DEFINATELY JAILBROKEN when I took it to the apple store they told me there's no way for them to tell if it was jail broken or not. I'm only going by what ppl have told me COULD HAVE BEEN DONE TO THE PHONE. With that said the only thing I know for sure is that the apple tech at the Genius Bar told me that someone took control of my root menu in February & I've had no control of my phone since. I asked him how to regain control & how he knew his exact words were "oh that is out of our scope of capabilities here at this level & you would need an apple engineer to fix it". I said ok then how do I get an apple eng then? He laughed & said you can't!!!! To which I was furious I came home & called apple requesting to speak w/the fraud dept to file a report they said we don't have a fraud dept!! So after a 45 mn phone call again I left w/no answers.
@TJBUSMC1973-
I DON'T HAVE THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS TO SPEND HIRING AN ATTORNEY & Although I appreciate your suggestion I fail to how an attorney would be able to facilitate in any way since there's no suspect. I cannot prove that it's him doing it so I certainly can't pursue legal action w/no proof & no money. :'((
Again I thank you for your advice but I don't think that will help.
I was looking more for a TECHNICAL way to avoid this happening w/a new phone should I buy one or trying to get them out of my phone now! Such as installing some kind of software protection?? Someway to clear out the entire phone (other than factory reset which was done 10 x's w/no success, etc. if this person got in then there HAS TO BE A WAY OF GETTING HIM OUT, right????