allow tag in Vhost.xml

Question

I want to allow connections between applications running on
my server.
When setting <allow> tag in Vhost.xml to '12.34.56.78'
(server ip address, i don't have domain name), server allows
connections made from swf files running on the same server, but
does not allow connections from one application to another running
on the server.
Adding 'localhost' to <allow> tag does not help.
Leaving <allow> tag empty does not help also.
When setting <allow> tag to 'all', all connections are
allowed including those made from third-party servers that is not
applicible for security reasons.
What am i doing wrong?

Answer 1

Here it is an excerpt of the file.
The <Allow> tag is the only thing i've modified :
<!-- This tag specifies a comma delimited list of domains that are   -->
<!-- allowed to connect to this vhost. If this tag is empty, then    -->
<!-- only connections from the same domain that is being connected   -->
<!-- to will be allowed. If this tag is not empty, then only the     -->
<!-- domains explicitly listed will be accepted. For example,        -->
<!-- <Allow>macromedia.com, yourcompany.com</Allow> will only allow  -->
<!-- connections from the macromedia.com & yourcompany.com domains.  -->
<!-- If you wish to allow localhost connections, you will specify    -->
<!-- "localhost". For example, <Allow>localhost</Allow>. To allow    -->
<!-- all domains, specify "all".  For example, <Allow>all</Allow>.   -->
<Allow>www.mywiicenter.com</Allow>
I have a page, on the site specified in <Allow>, with an SWF that shows a video on demand, taken from the "media" subfolder of the VOD application.
The FMS is in a different server.
When there it was "all" in place of my site, the connection were established, and i watched the video.
Now, the swf can't connect from either my site nor from any other one (i've also tried putting the swf on a different webserver with another domain name).
The FMS administration console tells me that a connection was attempted, but it was refused (see image below):
And i've tried both with IE7 and Opera 9.
I think there's a simpler way than rewriting the VOD application , isn't it?